What to get a guy for Valentine’s Day
Q: We have only been dating a year and a half but I have no idea what to get him. Im already making dinner is that enough? And Im getting him some flowers.
A(Answer by a handsome boy):
I’m a guy. I explain guy things for you.
Valentines Day, like many holidays, is performance event. Many of these performance events exist. Just about every “Date” is one. Meeting parents. Anniversaries. Birthdays. Why do I call them “performance events?”
Simple. Girls like it when we perform. They like gifts, they like it when we put on our little monkey suits and dance for their pleasure. We don’t particularly, but we do it anyway. Why? Because Girls Like it, and we like Girls!
Sound oversimplified? It is, but not by much. I’m not just talking about “liking girls” in a “we wanna get our rocks off” kinda sense, either. The point is, Ladies… Your guy wants *you*. He doesn’t care about “stuff” so much. He goes through all that song and dance, all the gifts, the dinners, the “acting civilized”, etc.. to get YOU. Maybe some guys are just “to get you in the sack”, but a lot of us are in for more than that.
99% of all men have never given a damn about cutesy, kitchy “Stuff”.. We don’t care about cards, fancy candy, flowers, etc. What we care about is making sure you’re happy with us, that we have performed our monkey dance adequately, and that the “relationship” is going in a suitably positive direction.. one where we “have you.”
Sometimes it’s testosterone driven, sometimes it’s not.. but one way or another, WHAT WE WANT is sitting across the table from us, or next to us on the couch. That’s why we bother with holidays at all. Because the women in our lives value them, and we value the women in our lives.
Ladies, Dinner’s fine.. we like good food. It’s practical, and enjoyable. If you *insist* on gifts of stuff, give your fella something he personally finds useful, or enjoyable.. a case of his favorite beer, some kind of tool widget, some component for one of his hobbies or interests, or a gift certificate to someplace that sells such.. But honestly.. We don’t generally care about “Stuff”.. and romance, to those of us who are interested in it, isn’t about “stuff”.. it’s about the performance.
So show your man you appreciate his performance, and he’ll be quite happy. That’s what guys want, to know their labors are valued, and that “things are good” where we want them to be.
